Why Pink? It's a Symbolism Thing – Becoming a Feminist Mom

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Becoming a Feminist Mom

Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about shedding the pink skin I wear on Bicultural Mom.  For one, it’s never been my favorite color, it doesn’t exactly depict strength or political savvy, so what’s the point in keeping it around?

To answer that question, I had to think deep about why I chose the color pink in the first place.  I wasn’t really trying to make a statement with it, but then again, maybe I was.  When I started Bicultural Mom, I was a new mom with an almost two year…a little girl, just as fiery as her mama and every bit as independent.  Everyday she taught me something new about what it meant to be a “girl”…a woman.  There was wisdom in her actions…and strength.

As family members on both sides flooded our home with pink everything, the color began to grow on me.  I began to see that it didn’t define me or my daughter.  Pink wasn’t a color of the dainty, submissive or dependent…society created these labels and they can be undone.

When I started Bicultural Mom almost a year ago, this is one of the thoughts that raced through my mind.  How can I re-define pink?  How can I re-define woman?  How can I make these new definitions a reality for my daughter?

This brings me to my one year anniversary as a blogger.  I started Bicultural Mom earlier this year in January, and since then I’ve thought a lot about why I blog, why I talk so much about identity and awareness…and why I’ve chosen pink.  I think all of it plays into the feeling that so many of us are labeled and silenced when we attempt to reveal our true selves.

What does it mean to be a woman?  To be feminist?  To be Black?  Latino?  Asian?  What does it mean to be you?  Each of us is unique and none of us deserves to live with labels that don’t fit our story.  For me, Bicultural Mom is about destroying those labels and making them false for our children…because my daughter deserves better.

So, for now, the pink remains.  ♥


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  • BellaVida
    December 8, 2011 at 5:18 am

    Re – defining Pink! I love it. 

    Great photo btw ~ she's such a doll and you're so happy. v.sweet :)

  • Me and the Mexican
    December 8, 2011 at 11:16 am

    I love the pic of you and your daughter!  You are definitely re-defining pink!  xoxo!

    • Chantilly Patiño
      December 9, 2011 at 3:38 am

      Thank you Tara!!  :)  So glad to have your support amiga!  <3

  • Maria Adcock
    December 8, 2011 at 4:17 pm

    I love how you're redefining pink. And I'm impressed in just 1 year you've gone so far with your blog!

    • Chantilly Pati&ntild
      December 8, 2011 at 9:44 pm

      Maria, I've been thinking about that a lot too…I've come so far in a year and learned so much.  I remember before I started my blog, I didn't even know what blogging really was and all I had was a Blogger account and a passion to share my story.  I've grown so much since then.  :)

  • Donna Sparrow
    December 9, 2011 at 2:00 pm

    I love it! I think I like pink a little more since meeting you, too! Thank you for being such an inspiration and shining light to a sometimes (ok, often times) confused world. Beautiful pic of you and your precious girl :-)

  • Ezzy Guerrero-Languz
    December 9, 2011 at 1:39 pm

    PINK is what you make it and you've made it your own. I've always loved the look and feel of your blog, Chantilly. <3 You inspire me, Amiga.

    • biculturalmom
      March 31, 2012 at 8:50 am

      Thank you so much Ezzy!  Sorry I missed this comment.  <3  As you can see, I’ve kept some of my pink!  ;)

  • biculturalmom
    March 31, 2012 at 3:54 am

    AWW!  Thank you Donna!  You have been such an inspiration to me too…and this whole community.  Thank you for always coming back to show love and support on my blog.  :)

  • LizLayton
    March 31, 2012 at 8:38 am

    Hello :) interestingly in the U.K. anyway pink was a boys colour in early 20th C as it is a strong colour and girls were dressed in pale blue or lavender as that was  seen as gentle and feminine. Wasn’t really till the 1950s that this ‘tradition’ of pink for girls was born. Not sure why it changed, some suggest it’s something to do with WWII. As for anything else, I suppose I recognise my cultural heritage of being Irish and English that has formed me but I don’t recognise division, as far as I’m concerned we are all one big family, I don’t believe in labels or borders either.

    • biculturalmom
      March 31, 2012 at 3:48 am

       @LizLayton Hmmm…I think I may have heard that before.  Really interesting.  Yeah, I would love to find out how it started.
      I totally agree with you too…no borders for our sons and daughters.  I really don't like to place gender roles on anyone and I want my daughter to thrive just being herself.  <3

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