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World's Most Beautiful Marriage Proposal – Really???

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Last week, this YouTube video was circulating wildly and when I read the title along with comments like, “Omg…beautiful!” I just couldn’t help myself and I watched.  What I saw was something I totally didn’t expect, that left me a little confused and a lot disgusted.  Here’s the video in question…

 

 

Automatically I was unsure, since a woman crying over a man is often a natural precursor for some demented male fantasy where he is the “center of her universe”.  While being the center of a woman’s universe isn’t automatically a negative, I just have to wonder…how much does sexism play a role in this supposed “fantasy proposal”?  I mean, for one thing, the woman is lead to believe that her boyfriend may be unfaithful.  Why?  Honestly, a lot of men play this game and they like to “tease” women and keep them guessing about whether or not they are “deserving” enough to hold onto a man. Women are constantly degrading their worth in accordance to the expectations of men and this proposal seems to play into that issue and actually exploit it! Brilliant way to start out a marriage, right?  Well, I suppose it is, if you’re trying to make the point to your woman that she is “lucky to have you”.  Did that point get made here?  Umm…yeah, I think it did.

What’s worse, this woman was put on the spot in front of thousands and on LIVE television where a quick decision had to be made.  That can be pretty tricky and for a woman who was wary 15 minutes ago about whether or not her man is faithful, it’s definitely a tall order.  I mean, she hasn’t even had time to process what happened.

After viewing the video, I posted to my Facebook page to see what response other women might be having.  Are opinions on this all positive?  Were other women offended?  Sure enough, there were some individuals who stepped forward in agreement (see below).  You can read the full thread here.

 

 

What are your thoughts?  Is this a harmless proposal?  Something for men to aspire to?  Or is it tinged with sexism and a lack of consideration of a woman’s perspective?

 

 

 

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  • Latinaish
    December 19, 2011 at 3:57 am

    Regardless of intentions, that was a pretty horrible thing to do. She was not in the right place emotionally/psychologically to make that decision after the way it started out, (with her feeling totally vulnerable and heartbroken that he may have cheated.) … This *may* have been acceptable if he had just created the surprise engagement without the cheating scene, and without pushing her to marry that moment. (She didn't even get to fix her makeup/hair or put her dress on properly!) …

    Even though she knows it was part of the surprise and not real, you can tell that she's lost some trust for him because she asks about the woman in the gold dress at the end – even after she knows what it was all about.

    • Chantilly Pati&ntild
      December 19, 2011 at 6:54 am

      All great points!  I totally agree…a surprise engagement is acceptable…welcomed even (without the stunt at the beginning)…but a surprise wedding is crazy!  Yeah, you could definitely tell that she was still bothered by the "other woman".  So crappy to enter into a marriage not knowing and having some insecurities about that…awful!

  • amandamouttaki
    December 28, 2011 at 5:05 am

    So I don't know if the "stunt" was that great a way to kick this off BUT this wasn't live. There are most likely a lot of cuts taken out of this and I'm sure that she was asked if she was alright with all of it. If she wouldn't have been it would have never aired. Also I don't know if the marriage could have been legal because she would have needed to sign a marriage license most likely a few days ahead of the wedding. Just some thoughts ;)

    • biculturalmom
      December 28, 2011 at 11:41 am

      @amandamouttaki Thanks for your thoughts Amanda. :) I wonder myself how this could possibly be a legal marriage. Who knows though…lol…I hear of all kinds of crazier things! Definitely didn’t like this stunt, but hopefully she got to make the final call with a sound mind.

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